Blurred Lines

I have several in my life. Two stand out.

1) The one where my work bleeds into my life. I am vowing to have that problem done and dealt with, except for scripts & probably Sunday nights, by 2/1. [Someone hold me to this, quick! LOL]

2) I have a close friend, we'll call him. We've known each other since May 03. In May 06 he effectively broke my heart. We were involved on and off between May 03 & May 06 . Without going into details that are really no one's business, we're newly close friends again. He found me on yahoo personals. We've talked, a lot. We've 'gone there' but once. We had a great night last Saturday night and I made a statement for me. I will be dating the next person I 'go there' with. Period. I haven't a clue if that sounded like an ultimatum because it wasn't meant to be one. It ws just a statement of fact for me, about me. You want the intimacy, you gotta take all of me. He seemed to understand that. He actually was being very protective of me and whatnot and it was the first time in my life, no I'm not kidding, where I felt like that. It was very sweet. We kissed, we cuddled, we talked. I am not the leader in my relationships with guys and thusly am not calling out jack crap. We're friends. but are we more? Which rules apply? The 'friend' rules, which allow guys and gals to call each other whenever to chat, do stuff, whatever. Or the 'dating/pursuer' rules, which dictate chick [here, that would be self] not call guy. Guy must reach out to chick.

He didn't freak when I said 'no sex until I'm dating someone, be it you or someone else. The person I share me with has to want all of me, in public, in private, and the whole gamut.' I haven't a clue. The line is blurred.